- “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” Or so he said. (Mark Twain, that is.)
- “The earth was warm under me, and warm as I crumbled it through my fingers...I kept as still as I could. Nothing happened. I did not expect anything to happen. I was something that lay under the sun and felt it, like the pumpkins, and I did not want to be anything more. I was entirely happy. Perhaps we feel like that when we die and become a part of something entire, whether it is sun and air, or goodness and knowledge. At any rate, that is happiness; to be dissolved into something complete and great. When it comes to one, it comes as naturally as sleep.”
Today I am contemplating success and forgiveness. Last year when I had the breakdown in my gynecologist's office, I told him, through my tears, I felt myself a failure. I have made strides in my emotional health since then. My anxiety is manageable and I feel more peaceful and slightly more motivated. Yesterday I was struggling with success and forgiveness. In a conversation, someone said sarcastically to me, "...because your life is so successful." Ouch.
What is that measure of success? What is that standard? Well, if we are speaking of financial success, then no. I am an UNsuccessful little lady. Annually, I make about a third of what I did before I became a mother. And it would be fair to say my debt has tripled. It is an area of stress and disappointment and harsh self-talk. I am not proud of where I sit financially, but I do know that I can improve. I have to pray minute by minute for wisdom and guidance and strength not to commit the same financial missteps. It will be a life long challenge for me, I am sure.
Are we reduced to our checking account? Are we measured by our debt to income ratio? I truly hope that I will not have to bring a copy of my bank statement with me when I go.
I can share with you my idea of success, BUT I can't really claim this success as my own.
I have a husband who loves me, loves his children, who works hard, who is faithful to me. He picks up the pieces that I inevitably drop, he hopes and dreams and plans for a future for our children, for the two of us. I have these three beautiful children for whom I have been allowed tending as they grow. I have to see these great blessings, these gifts, as my success.
I yell at my kids and grumble about my husband. I forget to enter withdrawals in my check register. I overspend. But everyday is new, full of challenge and opportunity. I won't give up. I'll put that darling clearance tagged blanket back on the shelf. I will empty my virtual cart. I will hug my children and my husband. I'll choose love as my song. Forgive me if I am slightly off key!
“Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly. We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen
― Henri J.M. Nouwen
Peace, Love, Forgiveness, and Success to you today, my friends!!!!
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