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Sunday, August 22, 2010

note to self

  • you don't have to take on "everyone" else's stress. 
  • you don't have to fix "everyone" else's problems.  they might not perceive the situation as problematic.
  • you don't know what tomorrow brings, so stop worrying about it. at 4 in the morning.
  • you don't have to assume responsibility if your peer is too afraid to do it.
  • you don't have to deliver any messages for her. it doesn't actually help her, since it is important (to you) that "everyone" own her own feelings and opinions.
  • you, also, don't have to be angry with her for having a difficult time with change, and her perceptions about the future.
  • you don't have to reveal to her your opinion, or even indulge her or nudge her into increasing the energy around her stress by probing or agreeing or clarifying. 
  • you don't have to listen, but you will.
  • you are not, in actuality, your sister's keeper. you are simply her sister.

 
Dear Lord,
Please humble my heart. Before You, and to those whom I love so dearly.  Open my ears, my arms, and thoughts to You and to those whom I love so dearly.  Remind me of my part in fellowship, to be thankful for the gift of fellowship I have received, and to extend myself to those in need of comfort.
Soften my thoughts and words to my darling children, and this day, to their auntie.
Amen.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey there self......

I hope you don't mind if I take notes from YOUR note. heh. heh.

-B

Jan said...

Ahhh, I need to take these notes and apply them to self when dealing with sisters.

you are wise my friend.

ethiopifinn said...

b--only if you will tell me how to deal with this 2 year old darling/super strong gal.
j--hard to remember, isn't it?

elizabeth said...

Ah yes. I know the first two well.