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Sunday, August 22, 2010

note to self

  • you don't have to take on "everyone" else's stress. 
  • you don't have to fix "everyone" else's problems.  they might not perceive the situation as problematic.
  • you don't know what tomorrow brings, so stop worrying about it. at 4 in the morning.
  • you don't have to assume responsibility if your peer is too afraid to do it.
  • you don't have to deliver any messages for her. it doesn't actually help her, since it is important (to you) that "everyone" own her own feelings and opinions.
  • you, also, don't have to be angry with her for having a difficult time with change, and her perceptions about the future.
  • you don't have to reveal to her your opinion, or even indulge her or nudge her into increasing the energy around her stress by probing or agreeing or clarifying. 
  • you don't have to listen, but you will.
  • you are not, in actuality, your sister's keeper. you are simply her sister.

Dear Lord,
Please humble my heart. Before You, and to those whom I love so dearly.  Open my ears, my arms, and thoughts to You and to those whom I love so dearly.  Remind me of my part in fellowship, to be thankful for the gift of fellowship I have received, and to extend myself to those in need of comfort.
Soften my thoughts and words to my darling children, and this day, to their auntie.


Anonymous said...

Hey there self......

I hope you don't mind if I take notes from YOUR note. heh. heh.


Jan said...

Ahhh, I need to take these notes and apply them to self when dealing with sisters.

you are wise my friend.

ethiopifinn said...

b--only if you will tell me how to deal with this 2 year old darling/super strong gal.
j--hard to remember, isn't it?

elizabeth said...

Ah yes. I know the first two well.